Introduction: I wrote this about two years ago. I just found it and I thought it deserved a rebirthing.
I was talking with some friends the other night and we began to talk about the opposite sex and relationships. One of the guys in the room, let's call him Mr. Intellect, decided to give us his spiel on the “confused” woman. The highlight of his erroneous statements were, “I don't think women know what they want...women want bad men. They all want men that don't need them.” It's safe to say that I highly disagreed with this notion. Never one to be the spokesperson for women, I felt like I had to stand up for every woman in America that night. What I had to do was explain to this man that women are complex creatures and it is that complexity that makes a good man so hard to find. Men are simple, they need sex, food, and entertainment, order may vary! Women on the other hand need much more.
Now I have never been one to make a list of the “Perfect Man” because I always felt that it was impossible, among other things. But then I realized that the reason why I was always so against this list was because most lists contain shallow characteristics that you can find in almost anyone that passes you by. For example, “I want someone who makes me laugh.” Well if a guy trips while walking down the street you'll laugh. So, does that mean he's your Knight in Shining Armor? No! Any list that doesn’t contain the emotions you want to embody as a direct result of him is incomplete.
So, in light of the debate, I decided to design the man for me. Despite Mr. Intellect’s views I do not want a bad man, I want a man's man. A man whose strength is denoted in his stance. It's not that I don't want a man who doesn't need me, but I'd rather a man who doesn't have to need me, but he does because he wants to. I want a man who can make me want to kiss him, because I don't like to do it that often. I don't have to him to see me everyday, but I want him to want to. Similar to how Jennifer Aniston only wanted Vince Vaughn to want to wash the dishes. She really didn't care if he rolled up his sleeves and actually did it, she only wished for that desire to help her out in a sense.
I want a man who dreams more than just about me, for I don't wish to take up his entire mind. He should push me and motivate me. I want a man who texts me just to get a response, even if it's a simple “K.” I don't need him nor do I want him to open every door because he knows that I can do it myself. I want him to look at me in such a way that I don't know what's on his mind; I just know that it's something good. He should smile at me even when I'm not looking at him. He should not be perfect. He should make mistakes and get on my nerves sometimes. There should be just enough disruption in our relationship to give it character, but not ruin us. This description may seem weird to some, but only because their mind is not creative enough to understand the method to my madness.
The key behind my not so perfect, yet ideal man is that flaw is key. As uncanny as it may sound I don't deserve a “perfect” man, if such a being ever existed, I would probably irreversibly taint him with my own imperfections. So, I told Mr. Intellect what I wanted and he was completely dumb struck. At this point there was nothing more that he could say except, “So, you're the exception.” I took that as his apology to women everywhere. Now to be fair I will say that there are women whose choice in men are not great choices to say the least. But I do not believe it is due to them not knowing what they want from a man. Instead, it is due to their inability to vocalize and seek out these wants. But, on the other hand you have those women who just flat out don't know what they want at all, that I can admit. But understand, Mr. Intellect they only make up a small percentage of women. I’d say about .09%